Be passionately curious, not judgemental.

It is not easy to be curious. It requires purposeful practice and genuine concern. Since young, I have been used to following through things and did not have the habit to voice out personal opinions. Overtime, it makes me feel awkward to verbalise my thoughts and think that my perspective is not as good as others. Whilst going through the school stint as a School Counsellor, I begin to be practice conscious curiosity through interaction with students. I find myself feeling more comfortable asking questions that feed my curiosity, as well as taking on different perspective of the students. In the sense, the experience has made me become more empathetic towards the students and motivates me to feel their emotions.

To practice curiosity in real-life situations, I try to apply it by paying more attention to political issues and understanding the perspective of each party. Although it is complex to be understood, being curious has encouraged me to ask myself questions and seek for deeper understanding of the context and contents. This has makes me learnt to cross-check on information given before forming a judgement. With time and consistent practice, I hope to be better at asking good questions and able to articulate my perspectives more confidently. This way, I am able to make more informed choices and impacts to do what I want:)

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